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Saturday, September 13, 2014

Practicing Perfect Forgiveness

HolyCrossDay, September 14, 2012, Sullivan Park Care Center, by Sr. Annette Fricke, OP
            Today, the Church calendar reads that it is Holy Cross Day.  This is the actual day; it is not a transferred Christian Feast.  The Roman Catholic Church calls this day, The Triumph of the Cross.  Whatever title you should choose, I think we are talking about the same thing.  It is a festival of Christ’s passion and cross, giving opportunity for a joyous commemoration of his redeeming death with a festal emphasis not appropriate during Holy Week.  “The message about the cross, in reference to I Cor. 1:18, is the central affirmation of Christianity, demonstrating both the depth of human sin that made the death of Christ necessary and the infinite value of every human being that caused God to act to redeem the human race.  The cross is shorthand, symbolic language for the redemptive passion and death of Christ.”  This feast day of the cross is a celebration of the Gospel of John’s view of the crucifixion of Christ as the time of his glorification as opposed to his resurrection.  The moment of death is seen as Christ’s moment of triumph and victory.  This day was very important in Church history, being originally one of just three feasts, the others being Pentecost and St. Lucia, after which there were days of repentance, fasting and prayer—those days being the following Wednesday, Friday, and Saturday. These days of repentance were meant to correspond to the changing seasons, being originally agricultural festivals.[1]
            The passage I mentioned above, I Cor. 1:18 reads, “For the message about the cross is foolishness to those who are perishing, but to us who are being saved it is the power of God.”  Basically, Paul’s argument is that in the wisdom of the world, the cross of Christ is foolishness.  Who wants to follow a Jesus that sacrifices for all, with no discrimination whatsoever?
            In our Bible Study on Wednesday mornings, we are currently studying the book of Revelation.  One thing that was pointed out about that book is the view of the early Christians.  The early Christians were not a bit about compromise. Being a Christian meant absolute loyalty to Jesus.  You were not to allow any pagan worship or adherence to the Roman Empire.  It was a time in which the Jewish community hated Christians to the point of turning them in to the Roman government, to be tortured, imprisoned, and killed.  We can see how early Christians became anti-Semitic, why they hated Jews. This anti-Semitism is spread throughout the gospel of John, which in other ways is highly revered.  Unfortunately, this hatred of Jews continued in the Christian community for several generations.
            Hatred in some form of various individuals or groups of people continues to this day.  We still have much to learn of what it means to be a Christian.  You can tell much about a person by the stories they tell.  It is not so much the details that are the giveaway, but the emotional content indicators.  One story I heard goes like this, “One night, on the way home from the football game, my dad was driving and the teenagers behind us kept tailgating, so he stomped his foot on the brake quickly and hard.”  For what purpose?  “To teach them a lesson.”  What lesson is that?  “That they shouldn’t tailgate.”  Another person kept telling me about all the things that bothered her and yet, not once did she try to see these situations in a different way or consider letting go of something that happened many years ago until she had gone through the whole litany in my presence one more time.  At that moment, she stopped.  At that point, she began a long healing process.  Prior to that, she was convinced that everyone else in her environment was an obstacle or hurdle.  Helping people through anger and grudges is a delicate task.  Sometimes serious counseling is needed to work through those feelings as well as learning to build relationships rather than being destructive or ignoring, moving on to so-called “better” things.  Forgiveness is about mending hurt feelings in the now, not holding onto angry and hurt feelings about that other person or interpersonal situation. It’s learning that the world does not revolve around me, but the people around me.  God made all of us and we are equally all God’s children.  The world around us wants us to believe that it is only about ourselves, but that is only 50% of the picture.  It is about the community in which we live and work; our relationships with our neighbors, our relationships one government to another government.  It is about taking care of our environment so that we can leave this earth with a good place for our children and our children’s children to live, work, and play.  We are not called to conquer others, to rape and pillage the land, to get all we can for ourselves.  Christianity is not about self-love and damning the rest of creation.
            There is no more of a logical conclusion to living and growing as a human being than to continually engage in loving and forgiving despite all that would have us say, think, or behave otherwise.  God accomplishes the fulfillment of forgiveness by transforming us into vehicles of forgiveness.  Think about all the people who have shown kindness to you in the past, even when you clearly felt you did not deserve it.  There are few other things that help to erase past injustices. Our baptisms unite us to God in such a way that we are to die to sin daily, and rise again to lead a Godly life.  Sin continues to get in our way, but we are to do what we can to brush that aside to be the forgiving people that God bought us back through Jesus Christ to be.  When St. Paul said to “Imitate me,” what he really meant was to imitate Christ.  In fact, there is a whole book with the title, “The Imitation of Christ” that I highly recommend.  Jesus is our model in all things.  Remember, but forgive; repeat that process every day.  Never tire of reminding yourself of God’s purpose for your life.  Live and breathe the words of forgiveness into every word and action, giving thanks to God for the forgiveness given so abundantly.
            How often are we to forgive?  Seventy times seven or seventy seven?  Seven is a perfect number.  What Peter is really asking is this, “Must I practice perfect forgiveness?”  Jesus implies that it is way more than a specified number of times; we must always forgive, not because it makes us feel better, but because God forgave us and expects us to do the same with others.
            Let us remember this: “We do not live to ourselves, and we do not die to ourselves.  If we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die, we die to the Lord; so then, whether we live or whether we die, we are the Lord’s.  For to this end Christ died and lived again, so that he might be Lord of both the dead and the living.”  Do not pass judgment and do not despise your brothers and sisters because we are all accountable before God. Amen.





[1] Pfatteicher, Philip H., New Book of Festivals and Commemorations: A Proposed Common Calendar of Saints, Fortress Press, Minneapolis, 2008, pp 443-448.

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